Oh, the lessons we learn we learn in life. Sometimes our most difficult trials inevitably become our greatest sources of wisdom, sometimes we “learn our lessons” through trial and error… and sometimes it’s the bitter sting of loss that teach us the most important lessons of all.
Scientist have proven that we are born with only two fears:
1) The fear of falling and/or being dropped, and…
2) The fear of loud sounds
This means that all other fear is developed as we grow, based solely on our personal experiences. We all have our own sets of fear but most commonly among humans are:
– The fear of rejection
– The fear of failure
– The fear of deaths
– The fear of loss
“No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.” -C.S. Lewis
Now, I can not claim to be the most wise individual to grace the internet with their words… but what I do know soundly enough to speak about, is the bitter sting of loss.
My experience with loss began to unravel early in my childhood and eventually became a very unhealthy focal point for me. I began to notice each little thing that I lost, no matter of the insignificance that it may have in my life. This spun my entire life into an unfamiliar and dark place; a place of unhappiness and confusion. Fortunately for me, I was surrounded by an amazing support system full of love, courage, faith and wisdom; Therefor, I was able to discern the difference between things that I had lost due to my own decisions, things that I had lost which were irrelevant and the things that I had actually lost through no fault of my own. When I learned to pay attention to these details, I began to see life and my fellow humans in a completely different light.
I truly believe that the most difficult loss to face is the loss of people and love. I have lost loved ones to death, to selfishness, to time and some for no apparent reason at all. I still to this day struggle with the unconscionable way that people can simply “walk off” from somebody that they are supposed to love. But, I have come to the conclusion that all you can do is, in spite of these people who hurt you… strive to be the best person you can be.
Truth is… the sting of loss only hurts only for a moment and you will learn in that moment that life will go on. Trust that God has a way of removing people who can no longer benefit you, or may even hinder your growth. Be thankful for the people who love you, keep them close and do not fear loss.
“One of the hardest things you will ever have to do, my dear, is grieve the loss of someone who is still alive”